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Creative problem solving at it's best

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My kids have always amazed me with their endless creativity and ways of thinking outside the box. I am in awe of how their brains work and how they come up with things that surprise me. Living in a household of neurodiverse people can bring lots of solutions that you might never have otherwise considered.

My daughter was 5 when she came up with this idea, after I asked her to go and find 2 socks so we could go out.

She did come back with 2, although not in the way I had anticipated. She took t…

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Life can change in an instant

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It has been a whirlwind couple of weeks, starting at home on Thursday 4th March at home with an ambulance to Gloucester, the confirmation of Thomas’s leukaemia on the Friday morning and transferring to Bristol Children’s Hospital to start chemotherapy the same day.

He has done so well with treatment so far, which is full on by anyone’s standards. We are in the best possible place and the Drs and nurses are so on the ball with both Down Syndrome and Leukemia which is awesome. I’m so impressed an…

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'I'm not cut out for this...'

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‘I’m not cut out for this’ I thought. ‘The universe has got the wrong person. I’m just not up to the job.’ This was a really pivotal moment for me. To say I had had a tough year was an understatement. It had been the most intense experience of my life that brought me to my knees so many times I’d lost count. And yet I was still on this planet, breathing in and out, and that meant there must be some hope, right?

There were 3 main headline events from the previous 12 months of my life. The first …

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Being in the eye of the storm

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Being in the eye of the storm feels really tough. Disorientating, panic, uncertainty, fear, a swirling groundlessness.

Even after the storm has passed, there can be fall out, debris, perhaps things feel broken and it’s difficult to see how life can be put back together.

There is shock, why me and a whole host of competing emotions that we often have to push away just to get through the day.

My experiences with parenting my own kids who have vastly different ways of being in the world, vastly …

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Look after yourself first

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People don’t always understand how tough it can be to parent a child who experiences the world differently.

To have to stand up to family and friends who think it should be done one way, to stand up to professionals who have ideas that don’t necessarily make sense for our kids, to juggle work with trying to convince our kids to go to school, when school is open, to manage appointments with professionals, to fight for the right support when it should be given.

So many hoops to jump through. So …

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A little gift: self-acceptance

Self-acceptance

Are you struggling with lockdown? I have recorded this meditation for parents with kids who experience the world differently and it is my gift to everyone.

“Wow Charlie. This was one of the most powerful meditations I’ve ever done. I think it’s because of you. You are so authentic and you exude a resonnance that comes from real life experience. This was very good to help release life long emotions and start people on a very potent healing journey. Thank you x”

Feel free to listen if you need a…

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Bittersweet moments

Thomas birthday

Such a joy to celebrate Thomas’s 4th birthday today! So many emotions… so proud of him saying ‘wow’ when he got a card and ‘thank you very much’ so enthusiastically for his presents…

I remember back to his birth and the tumultuous hours and days that followed. Me begging the nurses to allow me to take him home from hospital… pleading with them not to do any more blood tests as each one found more and more things wrong with him… the contrasting joy of being able to finally take him home 3 weeks …

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When did you stop dancing?

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“In many shamanic societies, if you came to a shaman or medicine person complaining of being disheartened, dispirited, or depressed, they would ask one of four questions.

When did you stop dancing?
When did you stop singing?
When did you stop being enchanted by stories?
When did you stop finding comfort in the sweet territory of silence?

Where we have stopped dancing, singing, being enchanted by stories, or finding comfort in silence is where we have experienced the loss of soul. Dancing, singing…

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Never doubt there are possibilities

Neurodiversity

Never doubt what your kids can do!

Celebrating Theo Smith, who wrote this:

“I’m Dyslexic & ADHD sat here on a Sunday writing a business book which is now north of 60k words. Anything is possible! When I met my wife at 22 my spelling was terrible. My vocabulary was limited & lacked structure and focus. I couldn’t write properly with a pen, I hold it awkwardly & write very slowly. I had limited options available to me.

I’ve come a long way, and having convinced a woman to marry me, who was an o…

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A lovely gift for me to receive!

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A previous client sent this to me and it felt like such a gift! Thank you Gabi!

‘I know we didn’t speak or see each other in a while Charlie, so this will come totally out of the blue, I hope you and kids are safe and well.

My heart today is totally full of gratitude for you 💜 I just came out of a session with a client, and I am so proud of the coach that I became and I am so grateful to you for training me and inspiring me to be this woman, to be this life coach.

Thank you for being the beaut…

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